Category Archives: Society

Little Moments

This little pink paper crane — no doubt made from a Post-It, was given to me by an Uber driver about a year ago. His father had just died, and we spent the long drive from the airport talking about death and life and everything in between. We arrived at my house long before either one of us… Read More »

Heroes and Artists

I don’t agree with the heroization of entertainers, athletes, lucky survivors, and the strong-willed handicapped. If you’ve scored a bunch of touchdowns, performed in a great film, survived a devastating attack, or managed to walk despite the odds: that’s super! It’s fantastic, and in many cases it is even downright inspiring. But that does’t make you a hero.… Read More »

Why I Blog

On a spring day about a year ago, after urging another particularly eloquent friend to not give up on his blog, I realized that I hadn’t really answered for myself that question of why I keep a blog. Why do I write, and in particular why this blog? I’ve been mulling over this for over a year now, and here’s my answer: This blog is my legacy.

It Matters.

The world witnessed weekly and sometimes daily revelations of assault and rape in the #MeToo-drenched 2018, culminating in the horrific Kavanaugh hearing. During this disturbing time, I too often heard people shrug these stories away. Even if they believed them, they didn’t see the importance.

Noticing the Wonder

About five years after we moved to our home in Beaverton, Oregon, and then for maybe 5 years after that, the tree just across the street was a starling tree. Hundreds and hundreds of the local starlings would congregate in this tree every afternoon in the spring and fall…

Community

Every day, except when I am traveling, my partner Dave and I eat breakfast at McDonald’s. Looking around the room as I munch my Egg McMuffin, I see a diverse range of people who I would probably never have encountered in the normal circles of my life.

Coming to Terms with Alzheimer’s

When a loved-one’s diagnosis with Alzheimer’s syndrome is still brand new, it is easy to get buried deep in denial. If you catch yourself saying “When this gets better…,” this is proof that you are being incredibly unrealistic and setting yourself up for a bad time. It will not get better or go away: things will only get worse and you just aren’t preparing for it.

On Thanksgiving

A nice quote from the NYT Magazine: “To me it has always been clear that a dinner party is about what is said, not what is eaten. There would always be wine and salad and bread and stew; chocolate and fruit and nuts and sparkling cold duck. But those were just the props — the conduits for funny… Read More »

Aspartame

Aspartame has been tested until the cows come home and it has been consistently concluded that, unless you have phenylketonuria, it is not bad for you. If your guru, health coach, Aunt Mary, or well-meaning friend says it is bad for you and admonishes you for using it, ask them to cite their sources.   Here are my… Read More »

Why I Facebook

I have some friends and family who don’t use Facebook, including a few who tend to look down their noses at those who do. This has led me into conversations in which I end up defending it. Now, I’m not talking about Facebook as a source for news: therein lies danger. If you learn about something on Facebook,… Read More »

On Joss Whedon

In August of 2017, Kai Cole dropped a bombshell about her famous husband, Joss Whedon. In a published open letter, she talked about his infidelity, that he’d been sexually involved with at least one cast member from one of his shows, that he’d been unfaithful to her, and more. The reaction to this news, with the MeToo movement… Read More »

Stop Using One-off Plastic

Plastic bits in the ocean and in the food chain have created a big, scary problem. If all of us would take a few small steps to minimize disposable plastic usage, the cumulative effect could make a big difference. Many of us bring our own bags to the store, but we can do more. Here are five steps you can… Read More »

Divisive politics

In late 2017 I got an email from a Democratic organization venting about the just-passed tax bill that ended with: “We want to give you this anti-Republican bumper sticker!” I think this is a bad approach. I don’t want to perpetuate the us-and-them bullshit that is US politics right now, and I think things like this bumper sticker… Read More »