Category Archives: Society

The lasting effect of kindness

Recently I came across a document that is meaningful to me in several ways: the divorce document from January 1987 that finally ended my first marriage. As I held the papers in my hands, I smiled as it brought to mind something completely unrelated.

Waiting to die

In the mid 20-teens, my father was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease. By that time he was already starting to have mental slip-ups, enough that when he received the diagnosis, he seemed to promptly forget it. After twice having to tell him that he had the disease, my stepmom decided that maybe he didn’t need the reminders and just… Read More »

The impact of travel

I travel a lot. I go on a lot of international trips for business, I travel to see Philip Glass performances, and I travel to see family and friends. I love to travel, but like Marley with his heavy chains, I am getting more and more concerned about my enormous carbon footprint.

Humility & Belief

When a matched set of LDS missionaries came to our door last year, my wonderful Dave invited them inside for a long chat. They kept in touch for a while after that, but eventually gave up on coaxing him into their fold. The exchange below was so lovely that I asked Dave’s permission to share it here. The… Read More »

Voting For Everyone’s Benefit

When voting, the calculation everyone seems to make is: “Will this make my life better?” I think that’s a problem. Yes, I want my vote to make my life better. But I also want it to make your life better, and his, and her’s, and their’s. Sometimes to make everyone’s life better, it means that it won’t be… Read More »

Spam, Petitions, and Facebook Shares

I try to be somewhat tolerant and kind in my life, but I flat-out hate spammers and boycott businesses that spam. I fight a monumental daily battle against spam and other unwanted emails — it wastes about 10-30 minutes of my day every day (depending on if I start messing with my email rules).   What about petitions… Read More »

Little Moments

This little pink paper crane — no doubt made from a Post-It, was given to me by an Uber driver about a year ago. His father had just died, and we spent the long drive from the airport talking about death and life and everything in between. We arrived at my house long before either one of us… Read More »

Heroes and Artists

I don’t agree with the heroization of entertainers, athletes, lucky survivors, and the strong-willed handicapped. If you’ve scored a bunch of touchdowns, performed in a great film, survived a devastating attack, or managed to walk despite the odds: that’s super! It’s fantastic, and in many cases it is even downright inspiring. But that does’t make you a hero.… Read More »

Why I Blog

On a spring day about a year ago, after urging another particularly eloquent friend to not give up on his blog, I realized that I hadn’t really answered for myself that question of why I keep a blog. Why do I write, and in particular why this blog? I’ve been mulling over this for over a year now, and here’s my answer: This blog is my legacy.

It Matters.

The world witnessed weekly and sometimes daily revelations of assault and rape in the #MeToo-drenched 2018, culminating in the horrific Kavanaugh hearing. During this disturbing time, I too often heard people shrug these stories away. Even if they believed them, they didn’t see the importance.

Noticing the Wonder

About five years after we moved to our home in Beaverton, Oregon, and then for maybe 5 years after that, the tree just across the street was a starling tree. Hundreds and hundreds of the local starlings would congregate in this tree every afternoon in the spring and fall…

Community

Every day, except when I am traveling, my partner Dave and I eat breakfast at McDonald’s. Looking around the room as I munch my Egg McMuffin, I see a diverse range of people who I would probably never have encountered in the normal circles of my life.